Locktober Recap: Chastity Nirvana?
We FINALLY got a chance to document our very first Locktober. Here’s a quick summary, keep reading for more details!
Lockup lasted from 10/1 - 10/24. One accidental ruined orgasm and one real birthday orgasm on 10/24.
We used numbing spray for PIV during the first 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, he was too sensitive even with the numbing spray. No more PIV.
We achieved prostate orgasm! He was so sensitive that the slightest penis breeze might’ve caused orgasm when combined with p-spot stimulation. Does that count as a pure prostate orgasm? We think so.
We had our first soft swap swinging experience (no chastity involved). Unexpected. Very hot. Somewhat confusing. We will write about it more in a separate blog.
Her Perspective on Locktober
I really had a lot of fun. He was delightfully attentive and constantly horny for me the entire time.
My husband is not a “beg for stuff” type guy. He’s tall, handsome, very well-endowed, and usually good at convincing me to take off the cage. Or at least not putting it back on if I’ve let him out during an intended longer lockup.
Not this month. I was resolved. I think he was surprised how firm I was. I loved it. No matter how much he begged me to cum, I simply smiled and said no. The more I said no, the more desperate he got. The more desperate he behaved, the more powerful I felt. The more powerful I felt, the more dominant I became. This is what you wanted, right? You asked for this. 😈
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In the early days, I really liked experimenting with the numbing spray and seeing how long he could last. It worked the first week; he could still fuck me without feeling much. It was hotter than a strap-on because I knew he had some sensation. I liked teasing him and reminding him he couldn’t cum. There isn’t any of that risk with a strap-on and I really enjoy pushing him to the edge.
After 10 days or so, the numbing spray stopped working. He’s usually pretty in control of his “vinegar strokes” and can anticipate orgasm. Not after 10 days in chastity.
On day 11 or 12, I let him fuck me with numbing spray and the obvious “don’t you dare cum” warning. He thought he pulled out in time but he’d gone too far and couldn’t hold back. He looked at me helplessly and said sorry as he came hands-free on the sheets. RULE BREAK.
I shoved his head down, made him lick it up, and told him PIV was off the table for the remainder of the month. And no more unlocks for any reason other than hygiene.
It was fun seeing how long it took to reach that point, especially since he’s never struggled with early ejaculation - if anything it’s sometimes hard for him to cum sometimes due to his ADD / depression medication. This is my favorite part of chastity. It gives me control over his control. Power over his ability to hold back. He becomes a hungry, drooling mess and I’m his only remedy. It’s intoxicating being desired that intensely. Maybe I’m now a little curious to see what he’d be like after a full month, or longer…
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Prior to Locktober, we ordered an Evotion cage with a removable head. It didn’t show up until mid-October but it was (mostly) worth the wait. I LOVED teasing him while he’s caged and being able to remove just the head is delicious. I could lick him or rub his head against my wet pussy and leave him 95% caged. The extra access was very fun especially when PIV wasn’t an option. Unfortunately, the cage was a bit bulkier and noticeably visible under his pants, so we reverted to his old metal cage for daytime lockup.
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As part of our Locktober contract, he had permission to train for a prostate orgasm. I’m a nice mistress so I allowed him to practice without me. He had permission to cum ONLY if it was a prostate orgasm with no direct penile stimulation. I wanted him to unlock that ability without worrying I’d be mad if he did it without me. Learning to be orgasmic in that way takes a lot of concentration. Luckily, he took his practice sessions seriously and was able to achieve prostate orgasms after ~2 weeks!
When he finally unlocked it, I made him give me a show with our nJoy wand. I whispered in his ear, called him a slutty little cuck, and told him to cum like a girl for me. I slapped his cage a few times for good measure. He moaned and whimpered while he made slow, focused thrusts against his prostate. His orgasm built much more gradually, which was really fun to watch. His penis “O-face” is usually a quick hit - like a 5-second ad before a YouTube video. This was a 30-second ad I couldn’t skip but didn’t want to (lol). Watching him build towards an eventual anal-only orgasm was one of the hottest things ever. I really hope we can replicate it with pegging.
After his ass-gasm, I scooped up the cum and fed it to him. Rules are rules.
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You’re probably wondering why, if I enjoyed it so much, we only lasted until 10/24. Unfortunately, after his birthday orgasm, we noticed an irritated, knotty vein on the top of his dick under the foreskin (right where the foreskin ends). After some Googling - and a text to his urologist college roommate (we were vague on details) - we determined it was a thrombosed vein. Apparently, the cage had rubbed too much and caused irritation. This is a mostly benign condition that usually resolves after a few weeks or months. But it meant we couldn’t continue Locktober. He needs to heal up.
We’re not sure if a full month of a better-fitting Evotion cage would’ve prevented this. The Evotion cage has more coverage which might’ve prevented the movement and chaffing that caused the vein irritation.
Curious to hear if anyone else experienced something similar. And what your solution was.
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I’m not sure I had any serious revelations during Locktober. I still don’t want to do permanent chastity. My husband provides toe-curling, bed-soaking orgasms in AND out of chastity. I really like being submissive sometimes and it just isn’t the same if chastity is involved.
But I definitely want to do longer lockup periods again in the future after Locktober. I was iffy on it before, so that’s a win!
In general, Locktober made me more confident in all things femdom. I WANTED him to be locked up for the entire month. I think he believed I’d commute his full chastity sentence after the birthday orgasm. But I had no intention of doing that before the injury, even if he was genuinely annoyed with wearing it. I was fully committed to the Locktober concept. I was totally OK temporarily trading PIV for more orgasm control, more oral, more toys, and watching him continuously suffer in submissive pleasure.
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While writing this blog, I asked if he would’ve been excited (minus the injury) about extending Locktober into No Nut November. I thought his answer was illuminating:
”Actually, no. I wanted my dick back. I didn’t really want to wear the cage anymore. The idea of wearing the cage another month wasn’t inherently arousing. Simply wearing the cage is usually enough to get me really horny, but not after nearly a month. However, you WANTING me to be in the cage is incredibly arousing. If power over my orgasms becomes a strong sexual desire for you independent of my desire to wear the cage, I’ll gladly wear it as frequently and as long as you’d like.”
Power over his orgasms through chastity isn’t currently an “all the time” need. But after Locktober, it’s definitely a stronger want. I liked the results enough to make him do it again even if he wasn’t super enthusiastic about it (with consent, obviously). So maybe I did reach some sort of chastity nirvana?
Happy Locking, my friends!
