Her Perspective: Our First Locktober
We’re practicing our first-ever Locktober this month! He might get unlocked a week early for his birthday. Maybe.
Our contract remains mostly the same with one major exception: no penile orgasms whatsoever. This will be our longest period of no-orgasm denial ever and the longest he’s abstained since he started masturbating.
I love having sex with my husband. His dick is large and magical. I don’t want to give that up for a full month. However, I love the power that comes from controlling his orgasms. This month, I’ll unlock him for sex, but he is NOT allowed to cum. He MUST stop himself.
We’ve already tried this a few times and it was delicious watching him struggle to hold back. Normally, he has great stamina, but not anymore. His dick is hyper-sensitive and the pleasure in each thrust is magnified. He moans more than usual and fucks me hungrily. This is why I like chastity. My husband is usually in control. But when he’s locked - especially for this long - he’s my whimpering, horny, desperate slave.
Realistically, penetrative sex won’t be on the menu for the whole month. He’ll be too sensitive and cum instantly. That’s no fun. In anticipation, we bought orgasm delay numbing cream (which we’ve never tried). If that stops working, penetrative sex is completely off the table for the remainder of Locktober. He can pleasure me with his mouth, our trusty Hitachi wand, or a strap-on.
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This month, we’re also chasing the elusive prostate orgasm. He’s never had a hands-free orgasm from prostate stimulation and we want to “rewire” his orgasm circuitry. No penile stimulation whatsoever for a few weeks is supposed to help. He can already cum (easily) from a vibrator on his cage and that’s usually how our pegging sessions end. But I want him to cum hands-free while getting fucked. Prostate orgasms take patience, so he’s allowed to “practice” without me this month as long as there’s no cage stimulation.
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Some people asked us about 24/7 chastity and whether that’s in our future. Many guys love the idea of their mistress extending Locktober into No Nut November and beyond - potentially leading to a 24/7 dynamic. I don’t think that’s where we’re headed. Even if Locktober is amazing and he learns to prostate orgasm, I don’t want full-time chastity. At least right now. While it’s a fun game, it requires thought and preparation and a lot of that falls on me as the keyholder. I have to decide when / whether to lock or unlock. I’m expected to tease. I’m the decision-maker and don’t get to relinquish control. I like being submissive too!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s really fun periodically. But I love spontaneous, bend-me-over-the-counter sex. I love when he grabs me and I can melt into him without worrying about the logistics of a cage or a key. I love making him cum without props.
I strongly believe a healthy sex life is about balance and novelty. My husband tends to go 100-miles-an-hour on things he’s interested in and I love that about him. He’s energized by extremes and I suspect many other chastity husbands have similar energy. He’d probably cum instantly if I told him I want him locked 24/7.
But that’s simply not realistic and doesn’t take my (current) needs into account. I don’t want to permanently give up penetrative sex with my husband or never make him cum again. Right now, I don’t want to keep him locked for months on end. I don’t want the chastity game to lose its novelty and get stale. I’m grateful that my husband understands and doesn’t pressure me.
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I like the idea of compiling a figurative sex box of mutually-enjoyed activities: pegging, chastity, sex parties, BDSM, etc. We can reach into that box and grab whatever we like, whenever we like. No single activity fully defines our sex life, but each one contributes something valuable. Over time, we can (and should) test the boundaries of existing activities and audition new ones.
With Locktober, we’re testing our chastity boundary and trialing a more intense variation. Who knows, maybe it will be transformative. Maybe at the end of October, I’ll decide to extend into No Nut November. Maybe I’ll ultimately discover that I actually do want him locked 24/7.
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Those are big-picture questions for tomorrow. Today, I’m enjoying Locktober and watching my slutty boy get more desperate by the hour. I love giving him caged blowjobs and watching him squirm with bittersweet pleasure knowing he won’t get a release. I love making him suck clean the dildo he just fucked me with. I love rubbing his caged dick on my dripping pussy after he’s made me squirt with his tongue and a wand. I love riding him and watching as he tries to hold back a forbidden orgasm.
I plan on having a LOT of fun this month.
Happy locking!
